Talk:Doppelganger/@comment-12776-20140820134310/@comment-213.119.32.191-20140820160343

Wow, that's quite profound. And I do agree it's impossible to be 100% selfless.

But the reason I said she wasn't manipulative is because I don't think she's like that on purpose. Yes, she literally is not herself (or rather her original self) to the person she loves, but her transformed self is who she really is at that moment. When she says "I think that" or "That's my opinion" or "I like that" she's not lying, as due to her changed personality that might currently really be her opinion, even if it differs from what her normal self thinks... Does this make sense to you? Because I'm not sure if it does to me.

But you're right, since her true self does not seem malevolent in the slightest, she should learn to not be afraid to show her real self. It's touching that she wants her husband to love her more than she loves herself, but that's just a recipe for disaster. I'd say it's so selfless it loops back into selfishness; you want that other person to be so happy, you ignore the consequences; in this case a relationship that's doomed to fail and can make both of you unhappy.

Now, I'm not saying a person should never change. It's okay if you try to be a better person (and/or change your appearance) if you want to (in fact it's admirable), but you shouldn't become the person someone else wants you to be merely because that's what they want.

So yeah, if I encountered a Doppelganger who was in love with me, I'd try to make her more comfortable being herself and not be afraid to do what she wants. She's not malevolent, not even ugly, but just, well, sad. If we really do love each other and/or were meant to be, there should be no problem. While I'm not a lolicon, I wouldn't force her to shapeshift or anything as that would be hypocritical. Maybe have her eat a Wonderland cake but only if she's okay with it.

(Please tell me if this makes sense, because it's not always easy for me to say what I mean)