Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-43782881-20200803074517/@comment-43782881-20200804022705

No, I think these are some pretty clearly thought out points and I feel like I've gotten about as much as I could hope to from starting this topic.

Jova's responses on the other hand, leave me a but puzzled. My initial comment about rape advocacy is just that I want to see, and believe that it's very manageable to have the same level of care placed on male rape victims, as well as the same effort to prevent rape in the first place.

Then the comment about male and female psychology-I'm not in a position to tell you you're wrong, but I'm always a bit uncertain when I read claims about men and women being wired differently. There's a lot of external factors, one's culture, the environment they were raised in, the kinds of social norms you're trying to learn and adapt to...I'm really not so sure it's that significant which gender you are, which itself is a pretty complicated topic, informed by cultural factors.

And then, that story. You sound a bit like you suddenly dipped into a deeply personal experience but I'm not sure what I'm supposed to take from it. I don't reall know what dating entails, or where it actually happens, but I just hope this mindset you speak about isn't commonplace? Like this wierd hierarchical line of thinking, it doesn't sound like it should be real. How attractive someone is is subjective, how much money might make a difference but if a woman is shaming you for making less than her, would she really have been any good a partner? The whole "women have a monopoly on which men to date" doesn't even sound real. I can't relate to whatever that line of thinking is because it's so far removed from what I know relationships to be, romantic or platonic.

Divorce sucks, or so I've gathered. I don't have any good ideas about how to make it "better". I don't really know what this story is supposed to tell me.