Talk:Lilim/@comment-30741044-20170402005828/@comment-29602226-20170406212511

''"Do people like that really exist? Cheaters who cheat just because their legal partner can't satisfy their carnal desires?" ''

Oh yes. It happens a lot. And it's not about the quality of sex (or in your words, because "their legal partner can't satisfy their carnal desires"); sometimes the lover isn't even that good at sex... the thing is, after some years they don't find their legitimate partner so attractive and exciting, their romantic feelings disappear, and they feel unsatisfied. It apparently happens more to women than to men, because it takes longer for men to stop fiding their partner sexually arousing (that doesn't mean that women cheat more than men... men often cheat just because they have the chance, even if they still feel attracted and aroused by their legal partner).

Some women keep pursuing a "perfect" relationship with eternal love and sexual satisfaction and leave their husband as soon as they can, and go live with their lovers.

Some others feel too secure and comfortable with their husband (which they still are fond of/like as friends/roomies/co-parents) despite the sexual unsatisfaction/lack of thrill/lack or romantic interest and pursue affairs without having the intention of ever breaking with their spouses. In their minds, if he doesn't ever learn about it, no harm done... they even rationalize it as protecting their spouse from the emotional pain they would suffer if they learned the truth...

"I mostly think she'd go for the lover instead of the husband because, she is no longer attracted to her husband. A wife who loves her husband wouldn't cheat on him, so I can only assume she loves said lover more than her husband, and DE encourages true love. Hench why she would go to the lover instead of the husband."

Well, on the other hand, she doesn't love her lover enough as to leave her husband, does she?

It's complicated. She doesn't have to "truly love" any of them... As I said, she may still like her husband more as a person, but not as a sexual partner...